I think by default many of us make the assumption that we have unique qualities, quirks and opinions. Perhaps apart from those who strive to be like the rest of the crowd most of us notice these traits of our character and can become quite fond of them. I'm talking about things like if, for instance, you are the type of person who remembers small details about past conversations and gets satisfaction from recalling them or if you have a particular unusual outlook on something or if a quality such as kindness provokes feelings in certain situations you feel others would not know.

There are many many such things, none of which alone appear to be too unique for others to share but in total you would assume the chances highly unlikely, nearing impossibility to share near every such thing, hundreds of them, with another person.

However, how would you feel if you discovered just that, a person so similar in such respect?

You might once have felt unique and in some ways alone as a character. You would generally expect to share only a few of these quirks of character with others you meet. I find that higher importance is placed on those quirks which you believe to be more unusual and upon finding you share such a thing with another person produce the most surprise and astonishment.

I have been able to discuss many things with such a person and I find it feels as if someone has secretly read my mind. At times some of opinions and conclusions I hear this person has also reached seem unbelievable, I feel like crying "Hey you stole my idea!" when hearing someone tell me of an opinion or idea I too shared yet assumed was so unique that the chances of someone else having it were slim and yet time and time again this is exactly what happens making it seem even more impossible.

This has really made me think about our characters and personalities and what creates them. It's easy to assume that there are so many variables you could throw into the mix that obvious uniqueness is easily obtainable and very similar or same characters are an impossibility, however, what if there was a governing set of characters? Character A, B, C and so on and we all had one of these variations which were responsible for many of thoughts, feelings and opinions. Is a naturally happy person more likely to be positive and because of this reach a certain set of opinions that another naturally happy person may share? What could create such governing characters, genetics? Do we grow into our genetically predefined characters of which there are numerous iterations yet limited ones explaining how it is indeed possible to meet such a like minded person?

I can't answer any such questions of course but they are interesting for me to think about. Certainly, I no longer feel I am the owner of entirely unique thoughts, feelings and opinions and ultimately this is a most pleasant thing - the feeling of being truly understood by someone.

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